For the people pleaser, an occasional use of one’s backbone can be the most empowering and exhilarating feeling in the world! For one brief moment we people pleasers join the rest of the badasses of the world in making a stand for ourselves.
Fast forward anywhere from 12-24 hours and the self-examination begins…..
I had a glorious few minutes where I just plain bowed the F up on somebody. It was magnificent!! I was not cruel, degrading or cutting. I simple showed up when engaged and just finally told this individual a piece of truth. Which judging from the reaction- had NEVER EVER EVER happened.
This has been a two part post. I started it a few weeks ago. The individual that I had finally stood up to, came back around and I did gently stand my ground finally pushing them out of my life for good in any capacity. The teachings at church have been so much for me. I feel that God has helped comfort me and make me realize I am making the right decision by examining my circle of people and also realizing that he has not made me a people pleaser. Life has shaped me that way but it is not the way God created me to be.
So in hindsight I feel good about staying the course. It was time to do additional pruning. Once upon a time I had a backbone and am excited to see it return with God’s help. We often allow people to use and treat us poorly because of our unrealistic fear of rejection and hurt. This behavior actually only brings in more hurt and rejection as I am learning.
